YMMV, of course, on whether it's intentional that the average teenage guy is a horrible person when it comes to dealing with girls.
Yeah, I mean, that's the way that societal conditioning tells teenage boys to act, you're right. It's just...I kind of hate the idea that that's what's typical, you know? I guess I know some really extraordinary guys.
Definitely physical appearance. But the two are really tied closely for me. I can't tell you how many times I started watching a TV show not thinking a character was particularly attractive, but then I got to know that character and suddenly I find him RIDICULOUSLY HOT. And on the flip side of things, if someone's douchey or mean or an ass or whatever, it doesn't matter how hot he is: I instantly find him much less attractive.
I'm probably never going to go from finding someone straight-up unattractive to finding them really hot, even if their personality is awesome. But if the person starts out pretty average, then personality makes all the difference. Does that make any sense at all?
Honest question as a straight male with limited ability to evaluate Xander's attractiveness. =P
I have a question about this. This way of thinking is pretty foreign to me--I have zero problem evaluating which women I think are hot, even though I'm a straight woman. There are some women I find sexy as hell, even though I'm not sexually attracted to them. Now, admittedly, a lot of times the women I think are super hot don't fall in line with conventional wisdom, so take that with a grain of salt. But I'm fascinated by the fact that guys don't seem to be able to judge whether other men are good-looking. Do you personally think it's because you're socially conditioned to not even think that way? Because I would think you'd be able to evaluate someone aesthetically if not from a sexual-attractiveness perspective.
Am I being coherent at all? I'm incredibly interested in this topic. :D
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Yeah, I mean, that's the way that societal conditioning tells teenage boys to act, you're right. It's just...I kind of hate the idea that that's what's typical, you know? I guess I know some really extraordinary guys.
Definitely physical appearance. But the two are really tied closely for me. I can't tell you how many times I started watching a TV show not thinking a character was particularly attractive, but then I got to know that character and suddenly I find him RIDICULOUSLY HOT. And on the flip side of things, if someone's douchey or mean or an ass or whatever, it doesn't matter how hot he is: I instantly find him much less attractive.
I'm probably never going to go from finding someone straight-up unattractive to finding them really hot, even if their personality is awesome. But if the person starts out pretty average, then personality makes all the difference. Does that make any sense at all?
Honest question as a straight male with limited ability to evaluate Xander's attractiveness. =P
I have a question about this. This way of thinking is pretty foreign to me--I have zero problem evaluating which women I think are hot, even though I'm a straight woman. There are some women I find sexy as hell, even though I'm not sexually attracted to them. Now, admittedly, a lot of times the women I think are super hot don't fall in line with conventional wisdom, so take that with a grain of salt. But I'm fascinated by the fact that guys don't seem to be able to judge whether other men are good-looking. Do you personally think it's because you're socially conditioned to not even think that way? Because I would think you'd be able to evaluate someone aesthetically if not from a sexual-attractiveness perspective.
Am I being coherent at all? I'm incredibly interested in this topic. :D