My jaw was also hanging open when Don said that in the bar. As soon as he started, “But the person who really knows what’s best for Amelia is…” I thought he was going to say himself because he’s the husband, but then he said Amelia, and I literally thought for a second I had heard wrong or, like, died and gone to a heaven where TV was always feminist and perfect.
Wow, that was not what I got from that moment at all. I mean, maybe if it hadn't come after a monologue about how well, he guess he doesn't ~blame them for doing something so ~wrong which was so ~hard on him to come back to after things were just ~awful for him and UGH YOU'RE SO RUDE FOR HAVING ANYTHING TO SAY AT ALL when I am clearly the good guy here. Which is like, Disc 1 of Dean's Greatest Hits? so this:
The other thing that ticked me off about Sam’s behavior was when he left Amelia right after Don said they should let her choose.
I think is a little unfair. Because (a) he's responding to a lived pattern of psychological abuse about which he can hardly be expected to be reasonable, (b) even if he weren't, respecting someone's decisions doesn't necessitate putting yourself through sitting around every day watching them make those decisions, and (c) we know they were still together to some extent in the season premiere before he left to go to the cabin, so it's hardly like he threw down an ultimatum. I think he was missing a lot of signals from Amelia because of his own issues, for sure, and he could've communicated better with her, but the idea that this is Bad Behavior doesn't sit quite right with me.
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Date: 2012-12-06 05:39 pm (UTC)Wow, that was not what I got from that moment at all. I mean, maybe if it hadn't come after a monologue about how well, he guess he doesn't ~blame them for doing something so ~wrong which was so ~hard on him to come back to after things were just ~awful for him and UGH YOU'RE SO RUDE FOR HAVING ANYTHING TO SAY AT ALL when I am clearly the good guy here. Which is like, Disc 1 of Dean's Greatest Hits? so this:
The other thing that ticked me off about Sam’s behavior was when he left Amelia right after Don said they should let her choose.
I think is a little unfair. Because (a) he's responding to a lived pattern of psychological abuse about which he can hardly be expected to be reasonable, (b) even if he weren't, respecting someone's decisions doesn't necessitate putting yourself through sitting around every day watching them make those decisions, and (c) we know they were still together to some extent in the season premiere before he left to go to the cabin, so it's hardly like he threw down an ultimatum. I think he was missing a lot of signals from Amelia because of his own issues, for sure, and he could've communicated better with her, but the idea that this is Bad Behavior doesn't sit quite right with me.